Common Interests.
Have you ever had made a friends with a stranger?
Did the two of you have anything in common?
Yes- Great than you know the power of connection through commonality.
No- Great than this post will be even more valuable to you.
Ok so one of the dimensions of deep relationships I named is “Common interest”.
If you ever have connected with a stranger than you know its power!
There is no greater feeling in the world than when somebody knows where you are coming from.
There’s a bond there that seems to put people at ease.
And that is why it is such an important dimension.
So you know how important it is and why,
What else is there to go into?
2 Things
1) How can I better connect with the people I’m already friends with?
2) How can I connect with strangers that I have nothing in common with?
So first things first connect with those you are already friends with.
The thing about creating/ sustaining deep relationships is that
You must constantly re-evaluate them and adjust accordingly.
I say this because again before I began this series I realized that
While some of my friendships where on solid ground due to us
Having similar interest, other were losing ground because interests
Were changing, as they are known to do. This is were the challenge
comes in for you to realize this and either bond in a different area of this
persons life or maybe decide they are no longer worth your time depending
on where their life interests are taking them. Don’t involve yourself in destructive
habits just to remain friends. Well what if we don’t have any more common interests?
Ahhh Good question, the answer is…….Find one!
This point leads me to my second point, if you follow me.
How can I connect with strangers I have nothing in common with?
Easy, everyone has everything in common if we simply take the time to look.
Let me ask you a question?
Are you human?
Do you feel emotions?
Do you have people in your life that you love?
Do you have dreams, goals, or just want a more fulfilled life in general,
regardless of where you are at? Then you have something in common with everyone.
I learned a simple formula a while back in my nwm biz that helps to get to know people and
start building a relationship. The formula is F.O.R.M:
From/ Family, Occupation, Recreation, Motivation
From any of these specific area’s you can get to know someone off the cuff.
You- “Hey you from here?”
Stranger- “No I’m originally from ABC”
You- “Really, my sister is lives there off of Main St.”
You- “Oh I live down the street from there”
And so on and so forth.
So now we covered the fact that you have something in common with everybody.
We also covered how to get to know someone you don’t know yet.
So let’s finish with the people you already know and wrap it up.
This is the area that I personally have struggled with the most.
Again as time passes and people change.
As I have changed its been difficult to continue to connect with everyone in my life.
But I have made an effort one way or another.
I started working out with this friend because we don’t club anymore.
I started calling this friend every week because they moved across country.
I started a bible study with this person because they faith has become everything to them.
So can I tell you a clear cut way to continue to build with the people you love?
YES! The answer is determining the people you want to have in your life and commit to them.
Brainstorm ideas about what you can do with them?
Most important beyond or above all, tell these people you love them and you instead to
stay in their lives one way or another!